My hubby and I married 9 years. He lost job, I ran up credit card debt! before he lost his job I cant get work becasue my daughter had health issues! We cant affrod daycare! I try to get state assitance but we dont qualify! I bring some disability income not enough! Huuby doesnt want to hear problems/fianances. He says he wroks the best he cant do! bills racking up and now I am in collections! He also says he doing best! Howevr he doent want to hear about the fainances and how I plan to t I thinking about leaving him becasue I feel like he balmes me for our debt! We cant pay it off, he doent make money! I have high stress due to collectors and possibel law suits! I use my school money, tax return to catch the bills. We are still behind in debt! I cant sit around and wait till his income goes back to normal! My house may be foreclosure and my credit runied! Today he still balmes me for everything! I dont want be with somebody like that and dont have a a good outlook of financial!
How do you know when a marriage is not worth saving? When a person blames you for everything ?
get a divorce.
How do you know when a marriage is not worth saving? When a person blames you for everything ?
To what I understand.
He was fired
You brought up a huge amount of debt
He%26#039;s looking hard for a job
Your making excuses, just grab a friend for looking after your daughter
He should blame you for everything. Your not doing anything but making things worse. You cant even type correctly.
I know I%26#039;m going to get thumbs down for this because its not what you want to hear, but its true.
He should Divorce YOU.
How do you know when a marriage is not worth saving? When a person blames you for everything ?
It is really important to live with someone understand you. I met my BF on a dating site Tallkiss.com and we can understand each other in our life. So if the marriage should be end, just say good-bye and go on looking for the one really for you.
How do you know when a marriage is not worth saving? When a person blames you for everything ?
Do you love each other? Money shouldnt matter. If you love him and he loves you then your financial situation shouldnt matter. Yes the stress sucks but in the end when you have nothing do you want to have nothing with him or nothing alone?
How do you know when a marriage is not worth saving? When a person blames you for everything ?
Hes blaming you because hes stressed. If hes working then thats great hes trying to support you. Don%26#039;t leave him he loves you hes just really stressed. What I suggest you do is call your mother, sisters, grandparents if still around any sort of family that can help you baby sit and you need to work. Your in a crappy situation and you need to start making income. Even if its only part time its your best bet. Once your finances are fixed you will see him change back to the loving man he was when you married him. Your going threw a hard time and you need eachother. Stick it out and you%26#039;ll be happy.
How do you know when a marriage is not worth saving? When a person blames you for everything ?
By leaveing him, you%26#039;ll qualify for low income houseing, medical and food stamps.
I had to let the collectors go! I just throw their letters in the trash. When I get a decent job, I%26#039;ll pay them, but when you can%26#039;t afford them, you can%26#039;t!
You have time to build your credit back up. Right now, try and take as much stress from your life OUT and let him deal with it.
Go apply for low income houseing tomorrow.
How do you know when a marriage is not worth saving? When a person blames you for everything ?
WOW! THAT SUCKS! AND IM SORRY THAT YOU ARE GOING THREW THIS. I PRAY THAT THINGS GET BETTER FOR YOU. IF YOUR HUSBAND DOESNT WANT TO HEAR YOU OUT, THATS WEIRD. YOU GUYS MIGHT END UP SEPERATING OR DIVORCING.MOST OF OUR DIVORCES HAPPEN DUE TO MONEY PROBLEMS!! IT SUCKS BUT ITS TRUE. IF YOU DONT WANT TO BE WITH HIM ANYMORE THEN CUT THW CORD; BECAUSE WHAT WILL HAPPEN FROM THERE COULD LEAD TO WORSE THINGS ON YOUR PART OR EVEN HIS. FOR EXAMPLE CHEATING! BUT FIRST BEFORE YOU MAKE ANY DECISIONS, TRY ONE MORE TIME TO TALK TO HIM LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL AND WHAT YOU PLAN ON DOING. K. THEN GO ON FROM THERE. I HOPE THINGS TURN OUT GOOD.
GOOD LUCK! AND GOD BLESS! :)
How do you know when a marriage is not worth saving? When a person blames you for everything ?
Quit making excuses and get a job. Do you think you are the only person in the world with a sick child? The rest of work, so can you!
Oh and you are the one who ran up the credit card bills, so essentially it is your responsibility.
How do you know when a marriage is not worth saving? When a person blames you for everything ?
So lets see hmm have no clue what to say.. One option you do have is file bankruptcy before they take your house.. That would give you time to get things back on track.
How do you know when a marriage is not worth saving? When a person blames you for everything ?
With all due respect, it sounds like you%26#039;re both doing some finger pointing. His sole purpose in life is not to make money. Neither of you should be trying to blame the other. Divorce is a big deal...I know it%26#039;s necessary at times but this is just money that you%26#039;re talking about. Money can be stressfull but it%26#039;s just an inanimate object and it seems, to me, to be a very weak and materialistic reason to leave a partner. If you divorce, where will that leave the three of you? Jobless/low income and in debt. Instead of being able to work as a team and support eachother through a tough time, you%26#039;ll be alone with no one to lean on.
Don%26#039;t do anything hasty. I think you and your husband need to sit down and talk about this like adults, without accusations, anger and blame. See if the two of you can come up with a plan of action, as a team. Best of luck.
How do you know when a marriage is not worth saving? When a person blames you for everything ?
he shares in the failure of the marriage...he just doesnt want to admit it. You cant force someone to face something when they arent mature enough to do so.
How do you know when a marriage is not worth saving? When a person blames you for everything ?
Marriage is all about the good and the bad, this is a bad patch for you and your family.
Sorry to hear about the health issues with your daughter.
You admitted that you ran up the credit card debt, so you are responsible for that, but so is your hubby, the first time you made purchases that he did not approve, he should have taken the credit card away from you right than and there, cut it up. Any thing to keep you from using it..
You both are resposible for the bills and this debt and so both of you must work to dig yourselves out of this mess.. I can understand that you think you can%26#039;t get a job, because of the health issues with your daughter, but have you ever thought of working a different shift than your husband does, so one of you is always home with your daughter, while you are looking for employment you can babysit at your house to bring in extra money.
As for the bills, call each company and make payment arrangements and this includes your mortage. With so many people in default, most companies will work with you instead of you loosing your home to set empty and they also loose when you go into foreclosure...
Both you and your husband must do this jointly, not one but both of you.. It took both of you to get into this situation and it is going to take both of you to get out of it..
Marriage is not always perfect, you will face many ups and downs but it is how you face these problems together as a couple will determine how strong of a relationship you have..
Do you and your husband remember your marriage vows?
For better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and health..
This includes you, for you to bolt when the troubles start is a cowardly act on your part..
Of course your husband is angry, a man has a lot of pride and men always are taught that they are the head of the household and are responsible for keeping the family together.
Also he is upset about all the financial problems you are both dealing with right now.. A man thinks that he is the problem solver of the family and if anything goes wrong it is up to him to fix it, and this situation has gotton out of control with help from you by your own omission, and your husband cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel and all he is getting from you is excuses and that you want to run away as if these problems are not going to follow you where ever you go....
If you do run, do you believe that these bills are going to disappear? No, this will follow you regardless if you stay in this marriage and work together as a couple instead you want to run and expect to leave everything on your husband...
Marriage is two people who become one, this means two minds working for the good of each other...
you have a lot of options available,it is up to you which road you wish to head down...
I would suggest that you stay and make things work in your marriage and also help your husband get the bills paid since you contributed to making these bills by you own omission.
Good Luck....
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